Wednesday, October 05, 2005
28 Laws of Attraction: #3 Over-respond
OVERRESPOND TO EVERY EVENT. BY OVER-RESPONDING INSTEAD OF OVERREACTING, YOU EVOLVE, WHICH IS VERY ATTRACTIVE.
There’s an element of choice and taking responsibility in over-responding. You’re not simply a leaf blowing in the wind, reacting to situations beyond your control. You’re in charge, being true to your vision and plans, going some place cool, yet fully in the moment, aware and intuitive. That’s very attractive, isn’t it? Being with someone like that is inspirational.
The kind of over-responding I’m talking about then, isn’t piling it on, higher and deeper, not about volume or overloading. It’s about groking each situation in its fullness, accepting it as an opportunity to connect fully with others and joyfully express yourself.
‘Grok’ is from Robert Heinlien’s, Stranger in a Strange Land. It’s a Martian word meaning total, holistic comprehension, a wise knowingness that transcends thinking styles, time and culture. When you Grok something you get it totally, accept it, and are comfortable with it.
Over-responding also lets you get off the treadmill by learning new behaviors and life skills. You’ve probably noticed that the same kinds of things keep happening to you. Don’t deny it, it happens to me, and I’m not that weird. Check it out. Think back over your life. If you’re being real, you’ll notice that the people may be different, but the kinds of situations and problems are the same. In many cases, the people are the same, too.
This doesn’t mean you’re a failure or being punished. It means these situations hold some new information or behavior you need to evolve. If you look at recurring problems and situations that way, and learn what you need to learn from them, you can move on. Over-responding is a way to get the message and move to the next level.
There’s an element of choice and taking responsibility in over-responding. You’re not simply a leaf blowing in the wind, reacting to situations beyond your control. You’re in charge, being true to your vision and plans, going some place cool, yet fully in the moment, aware and intuitive. That’s very attractive, isn’t it? Being with someone like that is inspirational.
The kind of over-responding I’m talking about then, isn’t piling it on, higher and deeper, not about volume or overloading. It’s about groking each situation in its fullness, accepting it as an opportunity to connect fully with others and joyfully express yourself.
‘Grok’ is from Robert Heinlien’s, Stranger in a Strange Land. It’s a Martian word meaning total, holistic comprehension, a wise knowingness that transcends thinking styles, time and culture. When you Grok something you get it totally, accept it, and are comfortable with it.
Over-responding also lets you get off the treadmill by learning new behaviors and life skills. You’ve probably noticed that the same kinds of things keep happening to you. Don’t deny it, it happens to me, and I’m not that weird. Check it out. Think back over your life. If you’re being real, you’ll notice that the people may be different, but the kinds of situations and problems are the same. In many cases, the people are the same, too.
This doesn’t mean you’re a failure or being punished. It means these situations hold some new information or behavior you need to evolve. If you look at recurring problems and situations that way, and learn what you need to learn from them, you can move on. Over-responding is a way to get the message and move to the next level.
